Elisabeth Withers “No Regrets” – End Domestic Abuse!***messymandella***

  No one with any respect would mentally and physically torture you. 
   It is a beautiful thing to accept your past pain from an abusive relationship, and live with no regrets.
Mental  abuse is  different from physical abuse  because the bruises and scars are within. Any form of abuse tears your self-esteem down brick by brick, until your entire perception of self is destroyed.
    You can't move on or flourish or find unconditional love, until you find confidence and self-love within. 
  The emotional and physical abuser will cripple you until you can't appreciate your reflection in your mirror. 
    Emotional abuse is purposely withholding love and affection knowing it is diminishing your self - esteem.   
     The physical abuser convinces you that hitting you is their right because you are their possession. The abuser will show the entire world a completely different version of themselves, while gaslighting you. 
     You will eventually believe that this behavior is acceptable or you deserve it.  
  You will also question your value and that is the ultimate plan.
 Love is nurturing, never embarrassing or hurtful due to control or disrespect.
If someone disrespects you constantly, why would you stay? 
  People can only do to us what WE let them do. If you have to question your beauty or value, the abuser is already winning.
Take back your control. 
People have the ability to change, but only when they want to change.

You are not alone.
I am talking to you... 

 

 

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

 

http://www.thehotline.org/

 

The abuse hotline phone number 1−800−799−7233

 

 

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UPDATE:Transgendered Rapper Evon “Yung LT” Yung Deserves A Proper Funeral! ***messymandella***

       The Search for Yung LT’s body is still on its way, but with  results. Yung LT was an African-American Transgendered Male that promoted himself as a budding rap career before his lynching. Was it a Hate Crime, or some form of a Street Retaliation? He previously released videos in his own neighborhood, but also resided and flourished, and accepted as a man when he went that night he planned to come back home, because he left his jacket at her home. He left that night with his so-called friends, but what happened that led him to his tragic demise?

What may have been the reason that he was shot, choked and later set on fire?

         No matter what he did or said, those were people whom he considered friends and even at one time, roommates. Remember, the deceptive nature of backstabbing can build into their obsession, and altering perception in  life. You have to be able to decipher those fake smiles and each jealous glance.

       Transgender’s are in between both worlds and sexual ideologies because they know who they are, even if the world is unfaltering with their perception. The world perceives them by their sexual organs they were born with, and that is not the idea behind Trans Men. Some perceive the altering of your sex unacceptable, but at the end of the day it is your life and you deserve to have a chance at life, and these five bastards decided to play God, and brutally murder someone who loved and even shared a home with them. The police have given up on finding his body, but someone knows something.

           The men have been charged. It is not snitching, it is being a humanitarian and removing his spirit, from the unrest state that it is in. Bring him home, if you know were her body is located. Make an anonymous tip, and be a LGBT Activist, and also a human, with dignity. Yung LT’s life is not inconsequential to me, and hopefully not to you.

 

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***messymandella***Barely Seen Often Read, Peaks Out To Say Thanks!

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Men and women should surround themselves with people that want to build mentally and physically.

When you surround yourself with haters and insecurity, you will be miserable and insecure and hateful.

If you are mortified about what you are doing in life, do something else.

You can be the master of your own failures, but don’t contradict yourself.

You don’t have to look at me to understand my thoughts and ideas.

However, I do exist…

We have all been up against the wall and kept our heads high, and  we will reap our benefits in time.

Be patient and happy with you, I am !

Shake That Evil off of you and celebrate Life!

Hope and faith, and loyalty creates a recipe of progress, and leaves us all connected.

My readers and my friends who help tell someone elses biography are witnesses to the power of redemption.

These stories sustain me, and that motivates me to do more for culture and it is  the reason I know life has more in store for me.

So many opportunities, and so many exceptional things are destined for you!

You have to stay guided and confident, and giving.

Don’t let negative emotions get involved with your struggle.

Love the men that surround you and let them know you believe in them, but will speak up against the misogynist acts of women.

“You will never see me coming, but you will know when I get there!”- ***messymandella***

Now, back to being Incognito….

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Happy New Years From***messymandella***

 

I am blessed to have you people in my life. I am in awe at  you guys for being true and enlightened beings. We can prove to the world that if you don’t stand for something , you will fall for everything. Always open your universe to everything that you deem possible. Everyone deserves to know when they close their eyes that someone loves and needs them.

I need you!

We will get Santra Rucker’s story out to the world.

We have our own community of brethren who love LGBT Rights,  Art,  Fashion, Human Rights, Beauty, Equality, Battle Rap, my rantings, and Feminist Theory available at ***messymandella*** Love you!

I am so glad that you guys want to help strangers without any financial regard, because of our morality and spiritual wealth.

Thank you!

#SALUTE

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I was in the dark!

I never said I was Daniel Day Lewis

I am happy to have the people in my life that understand me.

I love to joke, smile…ok this is starting to sound like E-Harmony and what not…

We have to get Indie Artist their shine, get Sandra Rucker home.

Praying for Max B and his family.

I also know that someone is going to have a stellar music career, even though you ain’t even know it! 
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UPDATE: WE ALL SAVED SARA KRUZAN!***messymandella***

Sara Kruzan WILL BE FREED!

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“Thousands of national and international supporters to Free Sara Kruzan were patiently awaiting some response after the deadline on Sara’s final appeal, July 19th. Today, July 24th 2012 we received our response. Paul Zellerbach, the District Attorney of  Riverside County, California, requested a 60 day extension in his decision as to whether or not Sara Kruzan will be released with time served. His request was granted. While some may be saddened or enraged by Sara’s continued habitation in an honors dorm, inside a women’s facility in the State of California, Free Sara Kruzan’s team of international supporters are ecstatic. An extension on Sara’s final appeal fairs better than it’s decline. The extension equals less than 60 days to rev our campaigns in top shape, to make a lasting impression regarding the status of women and children across the globe.

After 18 years and 5 months incarcerated, on September 18th, 2012, Paul Zellerbach has the power to declare the immediate release of Sara Kruzan. More than ever before, Sara’s worldwide supporters may now hold a key. Sara’s release is no less than a monumental event in the international human rights and anti-human trafficking movement. If you’re not yet familiar with Sara Kruzan, we will introduce you.
Sara is the poster child for sexual abuse, and unfair penalties of anti-human trafficking. She is the minor who survived sexual assault, rape, illegal child- sex trafficking and intimate battering. She is the child who was threatened and coerced to take the life of the man who sold her body. She is the child who finally snapped, and shot again killed her captor when he was again about to rape her. She is the child who was sentenced to life in prison plus four years with no possibility of parole.”

“Sara Kruzan is the grown woman who is a sister and a friend to anti-human trafficking activists across the globe. Sara Kruzan is  a voice of hope and strength. In spite of all she has survived, Sara is one of the sweetest, most optimistic people who you will ever come across or have heard about. Behind bars, Sara is a leader. If and when she is released from prison, there is no telling what Sara’s international movement may now achieve for child-sex slaves and human trafficking victims, worldwide. We’re in a pivotal hour in a united front to bring Sara home. We can not achieve this milestone alone. Join the movement to Free Sara Kruzan. Let’s all join forces for her freedom. Let’s become a part of anti-human trafficking history by contributing our monetary  resources, unique talents and support to Free Sara. by Jesaka Sekmet Auset © 2012.” Free Sara Kruzan www.freesarakruzan.org

On my site, and http://childreninprison.wordpress.com/ and myriads of media outlets, and even Dr.Phil wanted answers, and knew this was unjust! We didn’t give up telling her story! As a Molestation survivor, I knew she was in utter torment, and was only defending herself! She has been in my thoughts since last year!

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Excerpt taken from Abolish Slavery:

“Thousands of national and international supporters to Free Sara Kruzan were patiently awaiting some response after the deadline on Sara’s final appeal, July 19th. Today, July 24th 2012 we received our response. Paul Zellerbach, the District Attorney of  Riverside County, California, requested a 60 day extension in his decision as to whether or not Sara Kruzan will be released with time served. His request was granted. While some may be saddened or enraged by Sara’s continued habitation in an honors dorm, inside a women’s facility in the State of California, Free Sara Kruzan’s team of international supporters are ecstatic. An extension on Sara’s final appeal fairs better than it’s decline. The extension equals less than 60 days to rev our campaigns in top shape, to make a lasting impression regarding the status of women and children across the globe.

After 18 years and 5 months incarcerated, on September 18th, 2012, Paul Zellerbach has the power to declare the immediate release of Sara Kruzan. More than ever before, Sara’s worldwide supporters may now hold a key. Sara’s release is no less than a monumental event in the international human rights and anti-human trafficking movement. If you’re not yet familiar with Sara Kruzan, we will introduce you. Sara is the Harriet Tubman of anti-human trafficking. She is the minor who survived sexual assault, rape, illegal child- sex trafficking and intimate battering. She is the child who was threatened and coerced to take the life of the man who sold her body. She is the child who let off the shot that killed her captor when he was again about to rape her. She is the child who was sentenced to life in prison plus four years with no possibility of parole.”

“Sara Kruzan is the grown woman who is a sister and a friend to anti-human trafficking activists across the globe. Sara Kruzan is  a voice of hope and strength. In spite of all she has survived, Sara is one of the sweetest, most optimistic people who you will ever come across or have heard about. Behind bars, Sara is a leader. If and when she is released from prison, there is no telling what Sara’s international movement may now achieve for child-sex slaves and human trafficking victims, worldwide. We’re in a pivotal hour in a united front to bring Sara home. We can not achieve this milestone alone. Join the movement to Free Sara Kruzan. Let’s all join forces for her freedom. Let’s become a part of anti-human trafficking history by contributing our monetary  resources, unique talents and support to Free Sara. by Jesaka Sekmet Auset © 2012.” Free Sara Kruzan www.freesarakruzan.org

Twitter.com/freesarakruzan / Facebook/Group / Facebook/Page

….past information and phone #s

 
Dear Kamala,who had trafficked her as a child sex slave. Sara was 11 when this grooming process began. She was 16 when she was arrested in 1994. Instead of being charged with justifiable homicide or a sentence reflecting the severity of G.G.’s (Howard) abuse, Sara received Life without Parole. Sara has served 18 years in the state of California. In this time she has both educated herself and has received honors for her outstanding conduct. With the aid of supporters such as Human Rights Watch, in 2011, the governor granted Sara clemency, which reduced her sentence to life with the possibility of parole in 2020. Still, her release is not promised.” Let me introduce my friend Sara to you via a u-tube that was created by the Human Rights Watch. Sara is one of the most amazing human beings I can honestly say I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGL_p7BcJqk Please visit this website for more information, and other ways to fight for her freedom. There you will find an artistic photo petition campaign to CA Gov. Brown, a Change.org petition, Sara’s full story, and more!  http://savesara.com/ More information about Sara’s case can be found at the website of National Center for Youth Law: http://www.youthlaw.org/litigation/ncyl_cases/juvenile_justice/sara_kruzan/ Save Sara 2012