I have always wondered about colorism. I am short, light skin, and a weave queen. Some women would describe that as “fake.”
I tell them get your hair out that pigtail holder,get an upgrade. I also know that people who wear natural hair at times thinks that brings them closer to the “Motherland.” I’m here to tell you, that you can ignorant about your culture,no matter what you think. Hair does not advertise your intelligence.
She has dark skin, big lips, and big eyes. She is Beautiful. Women are the worst critics of other women. Oh honey, I know.
Ledisi, admitted in an interview that she never thought she was ugly until she became a Neo Soul Powerhouse. In her book she discusses her looks and her definition of beauty. Here is an excerpt:LEDISI
“In the book, there’s a chapter called ‘Beauty’: I talk about how I tell myself ‘I’m beautiful’ everyday because the world says something different. I didn’t know I was considered ‘ugly’ to someone until they said it, because all of my life I’d been told I was beautiful, especially by my mother in particular, so when I got out there in the world, I heard differently.
There are also other versions of beauty out there and I talk about those, saying that the woman we typically would consider ‘beautiful’ may look that way on the outside to the rest of the world, but on the inside, she may be ‘broken.’ There are so many things in other chapters that I talk about: ‘Love.’ ‘Forgiveness.’ ‘Faith.’ ‘Exiting Stage Left,’ all of these different aspects that we can learn from. Men may enjoy some parts of “…..Alright,” since there are men that I celebrate—there’s a quote from President Obama inside that speaks to learning from your failures, for example—but it’s especially for women because I am a woman and that’s all I can really talk about (laughs). The book has a lot of great stuff inside that I’m proud of: photographs that I’ve never shown, pictures of family members that I don’t really talk about (publicly) and those are the people who really helped me to get to where I am.”
You Are Beautiful!
Doesn’t matter what anyone ignorant self- hating undividual tells you. Women of all nationalities and complexions are beautiful. Your skin and your voice outweigh the negativity and all assumptions of certain characteristics that define beauty. Your lips and your gorgeous chocolate skin is a gift not a curse. We have to abandon insecurities within our culture and destroy Colorism. We can’t be united if little girls my complexion think they are prettier. We can’t be united if we have an insecurity if our men date someone of another race. My mom has a dark complexion with my features, my father is of a lighter complexion. My cheekbones come from the Native American ancestors and my skin is lighter because of the German and black slaves in my family, that were of lighter skin. People would be rude to ask my mom if I was really her daughter? It would break my mom’s heart that someone would be that intrusive and ignorant. They judged my mom by her skin but not her features it was embaressing and also disgusting to even question her about her baby girl? We have to inspire unity and abandon insecurity and slave designed hatred that divides black women, still today. Ledisi, Beyonce, Lupita, Nia Long, Rashida Jones are beautiful women of color that little black girls should notice, these women are successful, admirable women with different complexions, but are still undeniably beautiful. We can’t let our babies assume they are ugly or not as pretty as the girl in their class with a lighter complexion. End Colorism!