Colorism: Ledisi The Ignored Chocolate Beauty In The Industry!***messymandella***


I have always wondered about colorism. I  am short, light skin, and a weave queen. Some women would describe that as “fake.”

I tell them get your hair out that pigtail holder,get an upgrade. I also know that people who wear natural hair at times thinks that brings them closer to the “Motherland.” I’m here to tell you, that you can ignorant about your culture,no matter what you think. Hair does not advertise  your intelligence.

 She has dark skin, big lips, and big eyes. She is Beautiful. Women are the worst critics of other women. Oh honey, I know.

Ledisi, admitted in an interview that she never thought she was ugly until she became a Neo Soul Powerhouse. In her book she discusses her looks and her definition of beauty. Here is an excerpt:LEDISI


 “In the book, there’s a chapter called ‘Beauty’: I talk about how I tell myself ‘I’m beautiful’ everyday because the world says something different. I didn’t know I was considered ‘ugly’ to someone until they said it, because all of my life I’d been told I was beautiful, especially by my mother in particular, so when I got out there in the world, I heard differently.

There are also other versions of beauty out there and I talk about those, saying that the woman we typically would consider ‘beautiful’ may look that way on the outside to the rest of the world, but on the inside, she may be ‘broken.’ There are so many things in other chapters that I talk about: ‘Love.’ ‘Forgiveness.’ ‘Faith.’ ‘Exiting Stage Left,’ all of these different aspects that we can learn from. Men may enjoy some parts of “…..Alright,” since there are men that I celebrate—there’s a quote from President Obama inside that speaks to learning from your failures, for example—but it’s especially for women because I am a woman and that’s all I can really  talk about (laughs). The book has a lot of great stuff inside that I’m proud of: photographs that I’ve never shown, pictures of family members that I don’t really talk about (publicly) and those are the people who really helped me to get to where I am.”

You Are Beautiful!

Doesn’t matter what anyone ignorant self- hating undividual tells you. Women of all nationalities and complexions are beautiful. Your skin and your voice outweigh the negativity and all assumptions of certain characteristics that define beauty. Your lips and your gorgeous chocolate skin is a gift not a curse. We have to abandon insecurities within our culture and destroy Colorism. We can’t be united if little girls my complexion think they are prettier. We can’t be united if we have an insecurity if our men date someone of another race. My mom has a dark complexion with my features, my father is of a lighter complexion. My cheekbones come from the Native American ancestors and my skin is lighter because of the German  and black slaves  in my family, that were of lighter skin. People would be rude to ask my mom if I was really her daughter?  It would break my mom’s heart that someone would be that intrusive and ignorant. They judged my mom by her skin but not her features it was embaressing and also disgusting to even question her about her baby girl? We have to inspire unity and abandon insecurity and slave designed hatred that divides black women, still today. Ledisi, Beyonce, Lupita, Nia Long, Rashida Jones are beautiful women of color that  little black girls should notice, these women are successful, admirable women with   different complexions, but are still undeniably beautiful. We can’t let our babies assume they are ugly or not as pretty as the girl in their class with a lighter complexion. End Colorism!


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Happy Mother’s Day From The Childless ***messymandella***…

       I  shall become a mother, but I wanted to serve my purpose to help others and give my future children a sense of self and determination.

      I want my sons to look in the eyes of their dad and see courage and mischief, but also rest in the home knowing everyone in our household will remain safe.

I want my son to want to strive and have wisdom. Their dad must instill values regarding the dangers and mistakes.

I want a daughter that knows she is beautiful, but will


use her mind and spirit to lead.

She will always respect her man or woman. Her partner should always respect her.

I don’t want my daughter’s visiting their baby daddy behind bars, or her husband to have an inmate number for life.

I want to build pride, unification, and self-love within our world.

We as a world can become financial wealth, but spiritual wealth is just as beneficial.

Salute to you mothers that have divinity and life  goals  for empowerment within ourselves and the youth.

You mom’s are the reason I believe in love and a career with strong foundation.



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#WorldCancerDay: Remembering Taylon!***messymandella*** classic story


       I wrote this story in 2014 about Taylon! If you notice, I am no Oprah, but I always revisit stories that are  unfinished and still search on a weekly basis for  results on the status of their life, and vindication. I am her for people who are injured , assaulted, molested, murdered or fighting a battle of illness, that it is only matter of time…
I  never stop searching and checking up on the people that have for some reason are a permanent part of my life and the connection is stronger than the majority of the world would even imagine. I am saddened in this case to bring a tearful follow up for a brave little girl, that no longer is crying and suffering.
Taylon passed away, a few months back but here she is before the end to remind us that every day is a fight that we take for granted. Here is Taylon’s story and the reason I continue to follow up  on past stories, is because everyone’s life means something, and they are here for a reason. I  am a tough and feisty little woman, that has the heart of a giant and the determination  of  100 men. I will not be content  t0  I make a difference in this  crazy and sometimes deceitful world. Even if I write thirty stories a day and to community work every hour,  I still will never be as strong, humble  and  courageous as you were, Taylon!
I Love You!




          A courageous little girl named Taylon wanted ONE wish! She has an inoperable tumor, and now is living the rest of her life just appreciating each day. She has a powerful and captivating presence. Taylon, We Love you more than you can ever will imagine.
            You are one of the stars that even when we can’t see you; your spirit will still shine. You embody everything a soldier would embody to fight a war.
          You will always have a place in everyone’s heart.This baby doesn’t have long to live but she is and will be an Angel, and a remarkable light in everyone’s eyes that meets her. I can’t fathom someone so young preparing to die, but as of now she has accepted her fate…

This little lioness will leave stains on your cheeks. I am sobbing right now for this phenomenal little princess.