emotional abuse and physical abuse: It Is not your fault!***messymandella***

Yes, a person that only fulfill their own needs claims to care but humiliates and lies to you, they don’t deserve you.

 

“What did I do wrong? “ 

It’s a game of evil controlling and abuse.

They have problems.

They want you to feel  pain.

That is emotional abuse.

  Some men and women withhold sex and emotions.

They will have sex with you for months,or admit to having sex with someone and throw it in your face and one day they will get mad without warning, like you did something wrong. 

You did nothing wrong.

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 Some abusers disappear and know they made plans with you. 

So, you tell people who you are friends or a couple… 

A friend does not break plans.

Your friend or partner thinks they are better than you.

They are trying to punish you mentality and you can’t let them do that to you.

 There are people who will fulfill your needs.

 Kick him or her to the curb, most men that hit women are weak, and can’t fight in real life!

Stop being nice to a person, that will flip on you and convince you that you deserve it.

They will never give you respect, and you will lose respect for yourself in the end and maybe your life.

Stop wasting your time.

That person will be horrible to you , and make up excuses like its your fault you are crying next week. Keep your tears.

 Get someone who will please you and take you places and not emotionally abuse you. 

Stop and look at yourself! If he has to beat you, he doesn’t need you.You deserve better

What are you waiting on?

Wait,are you hoping they will appreciate you? It will never happen and you will have to hide the pain and bruises.
Words and actions should show you love and not jealousy and hate!

I deserve love, because I show love and patience.

I am also not going to put up with weak minded bullshit.

You will be glad that you listened to ***messymandella***.

That person is not good enough to share a coffee cup with you.

Please don’t waste your time on someone that hurts your feelings and interaction to control you! Some men will even flirt with other girls in front of you. He knows it hurts but enjoys it, that is emotional abuse.You would never do that to him unless you are a sociopath.

You are so amazing, and no one deserves to hurt you and get away with it!

You have multiple qualities of love and beauty.

Find a friend or partner that will appreciate those qualities. Real men don’t want to hurt you they make you strong.

Listen and move on!

No names were used in this story!

If you feel some kind of way, that means you are doing someone dirty.

That means you do have a conscious!

YOU CAN’T DO BETTER UNTIL YOU KNOW BETTER!

 If something happens to that person you are treating this way, how will you live with that?

You will wear that guilt for the rest of your life!

 

 

I was here! ***messymandella*** beyonce and nicki minaj

I love the fact that it is “supposedly” a mans world.

When a woman steps in the spotlight, it intimidates some weak-minded individuals.

Are you that strong force to be reckoned with,do you catch a glare in your hater’s eyes?

 Can you stay in the background and “bite your tongue? ”

You must not know about me…
 

 
I know that I am here to help people, and be strong!

Sometimes its hard to stay strong during adversity, but that pain and betrayal will make you free.

I don’t think any man or woman should be quiet just to please the masses.

 Sometimes it takes that small little voice to make the forest shake! 

Are you going to let anyone bring you down?

 They will make you second guess your destiny, but is that their fault you let them win?

 I want freedom from liars, racism, and homophobia!

I want Santra Rucker home!

Santra Rucker will get her freedom, or at least another chance at life, we worked hard enough!

http://messymandella.com/2015/07/21/santra-rucker-sentenced-to-390-years/

I refuse to stop teaching young women and men about emotional and physical abuse.

 I refuse to sleep with someone who has a girlfriend or partner or be anyone’s secret.

 Lying and withholding information are the same damn thing.

Don’t fall into the trap of being simple or afraid of making your dreams your proud legacy and never let someone bully you!

 I am going to make sure that I leave my mark in this world like it or not, I am here.

I strive to give love and patience to everyone I meet.

 I can’t be like everyone else, because I am different and I stand up for myself and my beliefs.

I never look back at my mistakes, just the people who made them…

Mistakes are free and experience is a gift.

Mistakes are nothing but pain and reflection that guides you to your blessings. 

I will not be submissive, and let people defame my character.

I have a damn voice, and you are going to respect it! 

Even if you know how your heart feels on certain issues, your self-respect means more.

 We Are all Responsible to let our light shine.

I feel freedom, when I leave a manipulative situation!

I feel free!

 I don’t care when they are mad, if they deserve the anger!

I will never give in to self-serving people.

I will never bow down just to be loved.

Do you let the world see you?

I am not going to live to be 80 years old, I just know it! 

 I want my remaining time to be spent with true friends and loved ones that had my back no matter what happened.

Respect my outside life, because in my personal life I am a very private person… 

My inspiration and dedication will guide me through it all.

 I am sure that through your emotional turmoil,  you learned a lesson.

 I refuse to settle for someone who does not deserve me.

You shouldn’t either, be free and live your life!

I want to show the world that I was here…

 

 

 
 
 
 

I’m immensely heart broken, freddie gray should be alive! ***messymandella***murder trial starts today…

 

 

 

Looting

Uprising

Rioting

 

Baltimore, no matter what  we label the actions in Maryland this week, this wouldn’t have happened if the moral code of the world was deemed superior to the so called law enforcement code. Who are the laws built to protect? Apparently not  Tamir Rice, Walter Scott, Trayvon, Mike Brown, and everyone else that was murdered just because they bumped into the wrong police officer at the wrong time? 

         Freddie, shouldn’t be dead and his twin sister shouldn’t be giving interviews. Oh, and to the conservatives who investigated Freddie Gray’s criminal record, you yourself wanted and needed validation  of your own racism and bigotry. If your relative was murdered by policeman, the LAST thing I would do would be to pull up their criminal records.

The  officers that were the same nationality of Freddie Gray are lower than dirt for what they watched and took place in to cause the “Uprising” and lynching  of Freddie are worse than George Zimmerman. Someone could have saved Freddie’s life. These people are upset the law has failed them repeatedly. How many more men and marches are we going to have this year. It is May 1,2015 and we are not getting the national support or confidence that this will change. Black men will keep running, because even if they run or not, they still may end up dead from  a police lynching, like Eric Garner and now Freddie Gray.

 
 
 
 

adele, jimmy fallon and the roots-hello ***messymandella***

classic-graphic-hidden history-the lynching of laura Nelson And Her Son LD In 1911***messymandella***


 
We discuss racism and our sole mission to unify the races.

However, to become familiar with our ancestors, it is mandatory to know why women with a strong voice, were not appreciated then, and are a constant thorn in an average man’s mind-frame.

We will  retrieve a piece of our history that society did not deem of importance and would never have a rally to clear her name of wrong doing. Of course when Laura was murdered those  pictures and whispered historians  that haunted the families and the neighbors were the proof. However the families that ended her life,  remain unmoved about the legend of Laura Nelson, that most remain hidden. Laura’s life was an uncomfortable truth, but history should never be ignored.
 

 
After shaking and crying watching  12 Years A Slave, and witnessing  Lupita Nyong’o ,with her interpretation of the molested and domestically tortured slave, “Patsy”  I  researched other female slaves. Our society must learn  the value of all women.

 

Now, we pay  homage to the woman who became  “Strange Fruit.” 

 

Here is the truth about a woman who ended up on  a lynching postcard, and lost her life unjustly just for being a  well spoken woman, with a sense of pride.

NSFW-Here are there pictures…graphic, so click on link at your own discretion… http://www.legendsofamerica.com/photos-americanhistory/Luara%20Nelson%20hanged,%201911.jpg http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/2/2c/Lawrence_Nelson_high_res.jpg

Information from the Genealogy Record History

SUMMATION OF EVENTS

Austin, Laura and their son L.D. Nelson were taken into custody after L.D. Nelson allegedly shot and killed George H. Loney, Okemah’s deputy sheriff, when Loney and a posse turned up at the Nelson’s home to investigate the theft of a cow belonging to a Mr. Claude Littrell. Laura’s husband pleaded guilty to the theft and was sent to the state prison at McAlester in the town of the same name for three years. Some accounts say in an effort to save her son, Laura said she had fired the fatal shot. Both she and L.D. were arrested and placed in jail at Okemah before their position their was compromised at the Old Schoolton Bridge by lynching.

 

 

happy halloween – earl sweatshirt/ whistling dixie yelawolf…***messymandella***

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“I’ve been alone in my shit for the longest
Snakes sliding in the street
Mama taught me how to not be like the bodies lying in them
Pigs, riding in ’em
I’m a target so it’s hard to even eye me in ’em
If he ain’t dying for me, then I ain’t riding with him
There’s no time for that
Making sure my man wallet’s straight like a collar
When you eyeing that
Thinking ’bout my grandmama, find a bottle
I’mma wallow when I lie in that
I just want my time and my mind intact
When they both gone, you can’t buy ’em back…”

“Never getting out of hand, steady handling my job
Time damaging my ties
Who turn to get up? Get dude turned to dinner quick
You circus ni**as, you turning into tricks
I was making waves, you was surfing in ’em
Dealing with the stomach pains just from birthing ni**as’ sh*t
Cut the grass off the surface
Pray the lawnmower blade catch the back of a serpent n**ga sh*t
B*tch”

 

 

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the asaad omar doby disappearance!***messymandella***

1674AAsaad Omar Doby’s family will remain in my prayers and his family and friends deserves the national attention for there late loved one, Asaad. If you have a foundation or any information that you want to make the public aware of it,send me a comment. I monitor ALL comments, and will not publish what is private information,such as phone numbers or emails.

 With love  and tears in your time of lost and injustice.

These lives are important too!

LOVE,
***messymandella***

 

This Article Below Black And Missing Foundation!

 

Asaad Omar Doby
Case Type: Cold Case
DOB: Oct 06, 1985
Missing Date: Sep 05, 2013
Age Now: 28
Missing City: Atlanta
Missing State: GA
Case Number: 13250043
Gender: Male
Race: Black
Complexion: Dark
Height: 5-8
Weight: 145
Hair Color: Black
Hair Length: Shoulder Length
Eye Color: Brown
Wear Glasses or Contacts: No
Location Last Seen: **UPDATE – The body of Asaad has been found. Story** Ben Hill Area at around 11PMCircumstances of Disappearance: Unknown. He was last seen driving a 2005 white Chevrolet Impala with GA tag: PIR2155.Last Seen Wearing: Doby was last seen wearing a grey button down shirt and blue jeans.Identifying Marks or Characteristics: Cleft palate lip, dreadlocks

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The Atlanta Journal-Constitution Reports:

Authorities have identified the body of a man found last month in southwest Atlanta in the trunk of a burned-out car.

And police are asking for the public’s help to find Asaad Omar Doby’s killer.

“We don’t really have a lot of solid leads to follow-up on,” Atlanta Police homicide unit commander Capt. Paul Guerrucci said.

Doby, 29, was reported missing Sept. 7. He was last seen leaving his home two days earlier in his white 2005 Chevrolet Impala, according to the police missing person report.

Doby’s fiancé told police they went on a date on the night of Sept. 5, and Doby left their home on Briar Glen Lane in southwest Atlanta, promising “he would be right back.”

“She stated that he did not say exactly where he was going but normally he always returns immediately,” the police report said.

An hour later, after Doby hadn’t returned, police said the fiancé called his cell phone only to have the call, and every subsequent call, forwarded directly to voice mail.

On Sept. 12, City of Atlanta workers inspecting watershed storm drains near 3540 North Camp Creek Parkway found a burned vehicle.

Police called to the scene found a body in the trunk.

Fulton County Medical Examiners identified the body as Doby.

Investigators haven’t yet determined whether he was killed before he was put into the trunk and the car was burned.

Police are investigating Doby’s death as a homicide, Guerrucci said.

“We really haven’t established a motive or suspect,” he said. “Somebody’s got to know something. Any information, we would welcome.”

Police are asking that anyone with information about this is asked to call Crime Stoppers of Atlanta at 404-577-8477. A reward is available for any information leading to an arrest or conviction, and anonymous tips are welcomed.

VIDEO GRAPHIC-Car being located, so watch if you choose, I didn’t want to bombard you with than unprepared visual so I just copied link, out of respect for you readers and supporters. NEVER give up on your loved one,just because they can’t walk through your door, does not mean you quit looking. Bring them home!

 

http://www.ajc.com/videos/news/police-body-found-in-trunk-off-camp-creek-parkway/vCCP9n/

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