Avoiding Negativity***messymandella***

You have to live your life without negativity.Sometimes it can come out of the mouth of a friend a family member. You must remember that if you invite negativity in your life,it will only grow.If that is your mistake you will alienate love,and life.People lead by example.You have so many opportunities in this world.You can’t sit around and cry and moan if you don’t take them. It is a daily task to meditate, live and laugh.Once you invite light in your life,you become a better person.

A voice of negativity may be the reason you stay in an unfaithful relationship. Some people hate coming home.They can’t stand the weekend,because they know their loved one may or may not come home at night.People will only do, what you let them do. You are in a negative situation.You don’t have to be in that situation. You chose to accept negativity in your life.

You have to stay positive. I believe that excessive negative situations make you a weak and mindless person.You are missing your blessings. I have girlfriends that WANT to be married, but their man can make it to the club,but not to the Courthouse.They will stay in the situations for years. That means the man has control of a relationship. So many people will stay around negativity their entire life.

Stop letting people run over you and not give you respect.Children watch as their moms have a different man in their house every other week.Some parents will smoke weed and curse in front of their kids. You have corrupted that child’s mind. So many negative ideas are already being sent to the next generation.

If someone greets you with a frown of an uncomfortable situation,end it.You can’t complicate your life and let other people decide your well being.When I started messymandella.com I never told anyone. I knew that negative people would ask me why? I am a blessed person.I work all the time.I do charity work for my town.I also find time to raise money for kids or adults,in need. I have participated in fundraisers for AIDS and HIV patients and visit them.I am not rich in money,just blessings. I enjoy what I do. I show love to everyone,to avoid negativity.That is why I don’t let people take joy from me. You better not either!


Those Damn Feminist…***messymandella***

   messymandellaHow dare we stupid and weak  women  demand  to be treated with reverence and admiration!We’re are all too lost in ourselves  and the culture of hip hop stereotypes and that there  is a logical explanation that men deserve side chicks while you remain faithful.     &

We feminists should except that direspect in lifetime. If we are waiting by the phone and are naturally required  to pretend you are out all night at the library. The next time you are told to   accept disrespectful indiscretions from selfish individuals. GIVE HIM THIS LOOK!                                                    imageIf we damned feminists would just except the selfishness of the male counterparts then we will find a partner or husband and not be alone.What happens if they leave you and your children? My dad told me to make sure that if a man leaves, make sure you are still able to take care of yourself.    Independence  is not too bossy but still a  safety net in case he hauls ass.  Women don’t allow yourself to become a second option or be treated like a plan b. At the end of the day, would he be okay with sharing you? When they don’t appreciate what they have leave that ignorance.Feminists are told they are evil and have distorted views.              



 If your ambition is a problem in society then change the image and embrace the self love and find truth in someone that will treat you  right When it comes to your salary and  your ambitions, don’t lose your strengths and weaken yourself.If you are in a position to climb the corporate ladder, don’t lay on your back to climb  into that executive suite. Women embrace your sexuality and remember beautiful women still read books and deserve happiness.                                            Watch the world attempt to silence you and diminish the confidence that you rightfully display.                                DON’T  EVER BE ASHAMED TO LABEL YOURSELF A FEMINIST!     .                      Love Yourself.                                               

I Forgot About Soulful Sundays Here At ***messymandella*** Enjoy!

Inspiration comes from within. THE words are beautiful and no matter who is singing it on Sunday the message is to inspire and unite in the strength and build a world were you don’t die from a tail light like South Carolina`s Walter Scott. LET the message reach the families of Eric Garner and Tamir Rice! It is time to  find love to motivate the selfishness and deceitful ideologies of those who hate and destroy peace by bigotry. Let love overcome and remember they marched in Selma and our citizens are still marching now. How far have we really come?

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