nia long juggles her career and her children with respect and style!***messymandella***

 nia damn 
   Unless you have cataracts or hot sauce in your eyes, you can NEVER say Nia Long is not one of the most unbelievable gorgeous people in the world.

Look at her eyes,skin  and her bone structure they are nothing less but  perfection.

Nia Long never ages physically , and she actually becomes even more gorgeous each year.

Nia has that confidence and inner strength that radiates through her body and she juggles her career and her life as a mother.

Nia Long is a true respectful, and strong woman who can handle her own, and wants longevity in the game, and she doesn’t seem to be leaving the limelight any time soon. 

I don’t think anyone is complaining, are you?




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when teaching ‘hood etiquette’ goes wrong! what in the trapped out the bando hell did I just watch? ***messymandella***

I mean if I didn’t comprehend the drug game, I do now.

Is this the “Future Trapper Association For The Future Prison Trustees?”

While those babies are dancing not  one adult is listening to this muckery, or whipping on this sweaty man? 


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bob bowers- one tough pirate is still fighting ***messymandella***

Bob Bowers is an AIDS Survivor and determined man!
He has abandoned the victim role and became a fighter who believes with diligence and self awareness you can live your life, but take your meds. Bob is a part of my selective Twitter Fam, and I love him for his courage and bravery.
Here is a glimpse of A mortal that will remain unchanged by his diagnosis, but will vow to give reassurance to those men and women that have contracted the disease. Even The HIV negative family must  support the HIV Positive family. No one should fight alone.


I was here! ***messymandella*** beyonce and nicki minaj

I love the fact that it is “supposedly” a mans world.

When a woman steps in the spotlight, it intimidates some weak-minded individuals.

Are you that strong force to be reckoned with,do you catch a glare in your hater’s eyes?

 Can you stay in the background and “bite your tongue? ”

You must not know about me…

I know that I am here to help people, and be strong!

Sometimes its hard to stay strong during adversity, but that pain and betrayal will make you free.

I don’t think any man or woman should be quiet just to please the masses.

 Sometimes it takes that small little voice to make the forest shake! 

Are you going to let anyone bring you down?

 They will make you second guess your destiny, but is that their fault you let them win?

 I want freedom from liars, racism, and homophobia!

I want Santra Rucker home!

Santra Rucker will get her freedom, or at least another chance at life, we worked hard enough!

I refuse to stop teaching young women and men about emotional and physical abuse.

 I refuse to sleep with someone who has a girlfriend or partner or be anyone’s secret.

 Lying and withholding information are the same damn thing.

Don’t fall into the trap of being simple or afraid of making your dreams your proud legacy and never let someone bully you!

 I am going to make sure that I leave my mark in this world like it or not, I am here.

I strive to give love and patience to everyone I meet.

 I can’t be like everyone else, because I am different and I stand up for myself and my beliefs.

I never look back at my mistakes, just the people who made them…

Mistakes are free and experience is a gift.

Mistakes are nothing but pain and reflection that guides you to your blessings. 

I will not be submissive, and let people defame my character.

I have a damn voice, and you are going to respect it! 

Even if you know how your heart feels on certain issues, your self-respect means more.

 We Are all Responsible to let our light shine.

I feel freedom, when I leave a manipulative situation!

I feel free!

 I don’t care when they are mad, if they deserve the anger!

I will never give in to self-serving people.

I will never bow down just to be loved.

Do you let the world see you?

I am not going to live to be 80 years old, I just know it! 

 I want my remaining time to be spent with true friends and loved ones that had my back no matter what happened.

Respect my outside life, because in my personal life I am a very private person… 

My inspiration and dedication will guide me through it all.

 I am sure that through your emotional turmoil,  you learned a lesson.

 I refuse to settle for someone who does not deserve me.

You shouldn’t either, be free and live your life!

I want to show the world that I was here…




Determing Your Own Karma!***messymandella***

Once the mask is removed you wish that person was the person you assumed to be, and you would do anything for them could be someone else.

It is a nightmare and a dishonesty that shatters your entire perception.

Everyone has to guide themselves through the mess but running, it is  mean, and it  is hard to believe it is true.

When you are obsessed with materialistic items over spiritual elements your selfishness is

Revealed in an excruciating and dramatic curtain call.


Does that make you an evil person?

No, but you are aware of your actions…





If you feel horrible about  manipulating someone and being greedy, admit it but don’t just run away from anyone in general that trusted you.


Some will never have enough money, but little boys and girls run and hide from  the devastating truth.


Your karma is no match for any piece of jewelry or amount of financial existence.


You don’t put that Karma out there and once again run and hide while she suffers in




It takes more self-respect to make a statement and admit you were wrong. The woman in this story is not me, but I know he was wrong, and it hurts to watch someone you know enjoying  gaining monetary satisfaction by conniving his way into someone’s pockets, but never face the consequences or even apologize for hurting her.


I was heartbroken recently to notice someone who I assumed was an amazing, but sarcastic person played with someone’s heart and used them, with no recourse or emotions.

Until, I had to face the facts that some people just don’t have that guilty feeling no matter what happens, money can fix it,or so they think.

He did not have to be with her, but he could have paid her back.


As an adult, you have to ask yourself, why would anyone assume that they could hurt and destroy people with no recourse?

I wanted to believe it couldn’t be true…

Now, he can’t run from her anymore, he needs to do what any Grown man would do, own up to his mistake and apologize for his


As long as you have that evil Karma  out there, you continue to  push your self to the brink of destruction.

Make it right, I laugh to keep from getting upset…MUSIC


He will always be arrested, fighting or living that Savage life, but you can be too damn old for games,and it is time to look at the “Man In The Mirror” and stop running.




Bleach Wars: Oprah “Light Girls” And The Skin Bleaching Addiction! ***messymandella***

      We are brainwashed thanks, to our Willie Lynch mind-set and media obsession with skin color. We are embarrassed with our nappy hair. Does that make yourself more European? We have natural hair treatment that we used to avoid nappy hair. You can add extensions and weave with an silkier texture. It still does not mean you are unhappy with your race. Weave has a negative connotation and women debate, and have to defend the ideology of weave. Now, the skin bleaching cream is a horse of another color (no hair pun intended) because it is shameful that you hate your skin.


” I Was tired of being ugly.”
         Even in songs people want a “Yellow” women like it is a trophy. When did black become ugly? Black became ugly during slavery and the House Slaves were usually mulattoes. The darker skinned slaves were treated as second class slaves and were required to be in the field. Our generation wouldn’t doubt their beauty unless this hatred is taught. We stopped loving ourselves.
       You can’t leave your job dark-skinned and then show up the next day the color of    Mariah Carey.
Something is wrong here, mentally not physically.

       Your body, your liver, your self-hate and self-deprivation!




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